A misunderstanding, Push-ups, and Laurena

We sign up big fry for a week long strings retreat-his first real over nighter. We think this will help him see not all kids are mean like he has experienced, and meeting new kids is a good thing-which he will soon do in middle school. He starts to waver the week before, "What if they are mean?" I tell him, no way these kids are nice. Forward to the second evening I go to pick him up and help carpool to swimming. He looks pathetic and tells me I don't think I can make it, "They are mean and I am really homesick". I am devastated. Just for once can he find a group to hang with, just once. I talk to chaperones at the pool and observe him and the other boys. I see lots of roughhousing, pushing, shoving etc, which he does not do well with, he likes his space and reacts to this like it is "picking". It is the physical rough housing that they are doing to impress that opposite sex that he just doesn't get. We go back to camp, talk to the director, he decides to sleep in his own bed and head back bright and early.
The next evening, I hesitantly go to check on him. He asks me to come back in an hour-this is a good sign. I get wine (I may need it) and go back. I see him with a group of boys AND girls. He promptly tells me"I am staying"
Fast forward to the end-in the car. He tells us of Push-ups, this kid who has Edward-like hair (Twilight) and biceps like diamonds. Push-ups hung out with the youngsters and was very entertaining. They call him push-ups because he is "super buff mom!" We also hear of the great "misunderstanding"-you can almost see the quotes as he says it. Noah is in love with Laurena and when Laurena talks to Alec ,then Noah is furious. "It got physical mom", so I am told. They worked it out because ALL of Laurena's friends kept saying, "Lauren wants you to talk to her". He is not sure why:) Then Laurena and Noah broke up
This behavior baffles me until I am in the bed that night and look at it with the lens of a 6th grade girl, which I once was. Boys rough housing each other like birds showing their feathers to impress and catch the eyes of any females nearby. All communication with the opposite sex is through your best girlfriend who then talks to the best boyfriend of the boy you like. THIS is middle school communication and I better start remembering it.

By the way Big Fry had a blast, he pointed out Laurena-I have to say the boy's got taste. When I asked him why he thought Laurena wanted to talk him to so much he immediately said, "I made her laugh, alot" I bet you did buddy!